Her moral support and (which is important!) Her earnings allowed her husband to switch to an interesting state project.
Many years ago, I lived in the United States for some time. I stopped at the house of an elderly woman in a small Pennsylvania town. She had 5 sons!
And they all faced the same choices after college.
The first job offer is a position in the municipality of his hometown, ten minutes by bike from home. The payment was supposed to be modest, but there would be time left for a young wife, mother, sports, friends and rest. The second proposal is from a corporation in Pittsburgh. The salary is much higher, but you have to spend four hours a day on travel.
What do you think the sons of this woman chose?
They all stayed in their hometown! Worked as clerks in a bank, construction company or municipality. They had children, with whom they would play baseball every night or ride bikes, go camping or visit their grandmother.
Then it seemed to me a mistake. I was young, ambitious and did not understand their choice. Just think, 4 hours on the road, but work in a large company of the state and salary is much higher!
Now I understand that each person makes the best choice for themselves at a certain point in time, based on their values and ideas about life. Everything is OK with everyone
And money does not always determine a person's choice.
It is good, of course, when self-realization, high salary, time for oneself and loved ones, and opportunities for growth and development converge at one point for a person. But more often you still have to rank these moments for yourself in order of priority.
Victoria Filippova, Partner PROTALENT LAB, PCC ICF coach